It’s now July and this year is blowing right on by…What goals have you reached so far?
For those of you who follow my writings you know that this year has been filled with unexpected twists and turns, but I’m still here. I want to share with you what all I’ve done to maintain my sanity in this season.
For starters, I completed grief counseling to deal with the trauma of my last relationship. You might be wondering why I would go through grief counseling to cope with a living person but grief isn’t just something you experience when someone dies but there are a lot of life events that we experience that cause us the same level of grief as when someone dies. I learned a lot going through those 8 weeks. The thing that stuck out the most is that what we learn about grief in our childhood sets the tone for how we cope and heal as adults. There are a lot of myths about grief and how to properly handle it. Once you learn those myths are the truths about grief and healthy healing your outlook is so much better and you can handle life’s curve balls with so much more ease.
Once I completed grief counseling I jumped right into one on one mentoring/counseling with my First Lady to help me grow and mature more both mentally and spiritually. If nothing else, I have learned that my mental and spiritual growth are the most important things in life.
The beginning of this year was beyond rough and the old me would’ve fallen and walked away from God and all the progress I’ve made over the past four years, but because of that same growth I knew that those hard times called for me to draw even closer to God. I acknowledged the part that I played in my storms and that my determination to grow spiritually and mentally was why the enemy was coming at me harder than ever and it only fueled my desire and determination to stay the course and seek God.
Thank God for keeping the fire lit within in and for praying family, friends and church family. There were times when I wanted to throw in the towel and go back to last relationship and my old lifestyle but then doors would open or someone would give me an encouraging word or simply tell me that they were proud of me and I would remember that all the sacrifice is worth it in the long run.
Then it finally happened…
All my prayers and meditation on James 1:4 began to pay off. Early June I was presented with a job offer for a job that was everything I prayed for in my next job. I couldn’t be happier with my current role and I no longer dread going to work. I’ve been working 52 hours a week and it doesn’t even feel like it. I would gladly work more hours if my supervisor would let me. I’m going to be able to get back on track financially and I even crossed something off my 2018 goals and finally got my passport by way of a family member that wanted to push me to travel more (which is part of my daily affirmations by the way). I’m not where I thought I would be this far into the year and I have made a poor financial decision or two when things were rocky but I know what prayer and meditation can do for me and I will continue to seek God and trust that HE WILL supply all my needs, wants and desires.
I will leave you with this…
No matter how hard it looks, continue to P.U.S.H (pray until something happens) and genuinely trust in God with all you have in you and He will literally make a way out of no way. There will be times when your faith will tremble but that’s when you pray harder and trust more. That faith and endurance will be what propels you and brings you closer to your breakthrough.
One last thing: DON’T EVER BE ASHAMED TO SEEK PROFESSIONAL HELP!!! The stigma in the black community against getting professional mental health. Speaking up and asking for help is not a sign of weakness but a sign of strength.